Monday, March 14, 2011

Uh oh maybe mommy needs to let baby spend more time without her :(

I have always been a firm believer that staying home with my kids was the best choice I ever made. Now don't get me wrong I still feel that way but some where along the way I forgot how these kids need time with out mommy. My husband is getting ready for his deployment so this stage couldn't have come at a worse time. My little princess has turned into a "mommy monster". If I am around she won't let anyone else do anything for her. For instance she walks over and says "hand" so she can show me something. My husband takes her hand and she starts screaming and throwing herself on the ground. At dinner she asked for help with her fork and my husband tried to help her and she said "NO mommy do". How could I possibly have let it get this bad. When I go to the bathroom she either comes in with me or stands outside the door yelling for me. In order for my husband to do anything I literally have to hide so she thinks I'm not even home. I am afraid that when the hubby leaves it could possibly be even worse when he gets back. Has anyone else gone through this? And if so got any advice?

4 comments:

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Not a Perfect Mom said...

I have four, and it seems like they all go through the clingy only want mommy phase..annoying huh? I live to go pee alone nowadays...
right now it's child number 3 that won't let my hubs so much as buckle her carseat, or get her a drink...
like I have nothing else to do?

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Kittie Howard said...

Thanks for following me. Actually, I thought I'd clicked to follow you earlier but saw that I didn't *blushes*

My hub deployed a lot when he was in the Corps. Always, always within our unit there was a mommy or two who developed your problem. Like the other commenter said, there is a 'clingy' stage that requires patience and lots of smiles but will pass. Having said that, kids are intuitive and sense something is coming. She probably knows daddy disappears and reappears and is at an age where she's afraid (but can't articulate that) you will also disappear. I saw that you're living on base. Perhaps you could go by the child care center and explain the problem and perhaps arrange for your daughter to go there at a definite time on a definite day each week - great way to make new friends. She'll also see that you re-appear. Any chance of play dates in the neighborhood (where you remain nearby?) I really think you should explain the problem to a professional and work to contain the problem (within reason for much is normal development) before the deployment, if possible. Also, do you have an active Key Volunteer program? This should be a good source of help. Please do not hesitate to make use of the on-base programs!!! (Sorry this is so long!)